Few most important things a girls in Pakistan should be aware with before signing on Nikah Nama
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Marriage in Islam
Divorce in Islam
Signing on Nikah Nama
Important Thing to Know before Signing Nikkah Nama
Marriage is a union between two individual people and theirfamilies bonded by holy matrimony.
When two individuals plan to marry, they think of nurturinga family together, committing their life to each other.
The explanation of marriage differs from place to place,it not only between cultures and between religions, but usually it is mainly a traditionin which personal relationships, generally sexual, are recognized or certified.
In some religions and culture marriage is regarded as themost compulsory before tracking any sexual activity.
When expressed mostly, marriage is regarded as a culturaluniversal. A marriage ceremony is known as a wedding and individuals may marryfor some motives, including legal, social, financial, libidinal, emotional, spiritualand religious drives.
Marriage in Islam is a legal agreement between twoindividuals (men and women). Both the individuals are to consent to themarriage of their own free wills.
In Islam a marriage is performed as a formal bindingcontract – verbal and on papers, it’s an integral religious duty that outlinesthe rights and responsibilities of the groom and bride.
In Islamic marriage there must be two Muslim witnesses onsigning of the marriage papers (Nikkah Nama).
In addition to the customary marriage there is adifferent fixed-term wedding known as zawājal-mutʻah (“pleasure marriage”) allowable only by the Twelver branch of Shia Islam for apre-fixed period.
There is also NikahMisyar (zawaj al-misyar, traveller’s marriage), a non-temporary marriage with the exclusion of some terms such asliving together, allowable in Wahabism Islam.
Some of the sects in Islam are allowed Nikah urfi and some sects allow Nikah halala.
Divorce in Islam can take a diversity of practices, some performedby a husband individually (Talaq) and some performed by a religious court onbehalf of a petitioner wife who is successful in her legal divorce appeal(khul) for lawful reason.
Signingon Nikah Nama
You may have signed a lot of agreements or contracts inyour daily life but when we talk about that marriage there comes the signing ofthe Marriage papers (Nikkah Nama), which you have to sign once in a life time.
All girls dream of getting married and to become a brideone day. In Islam the two individuals haveto sign the Nikkah Nama which is responsible to place two man and woman in aholy union that would drag them in marriage and it’s the only permissible methodof getting married in Islam.
The importance of Nikah Nama is not only that it bind thetwo individuals in a bound of marriage legally, it also provides a woman herown beneficial rights that she can state in the papers and claim them aftermarriage.
Usually in Pakistan the sole purpose is to get marry and girlsare too careless that they don’t pay heed toward these rights that should bementioned in the Nikkah Nama before signing the papers.
It’s a time for the girls to wake up and get out of the decorative world in which they only look gorgeous, getting their best shots and signing the papers with the peacock feathers decorated pen. Marriage is not getting the prince charming and live happily ever after, no one knows about the future happenings and it would be in your best interest instead of wavering off those rights.
These things are just for the time being the most importantis the new journey of life is about to start and you have to know about yourrights that’s must be written in the Nikkah Nama and you must be aware with beforesigning it.
These rights have been granted to the girls in Islam but majorityof the girls don’t know then and wont claim
Every girl should study the nikah nama before themarriage and install all the right given by Islam to a female before getting married.
It’s a humble request please please don’t wavering offthese rights.
ImportantThing to Know Before Signing Nikkah Nama
To sign the Nikkah Nama comes once in a lifetime so a girlsbefore signing it first see at the end of it you get a fairly big blank spaceto write down any extra conditions you want and the guy has to follow it officially.
Our guardian and moulvis do not talk about the rightsgiven to girls during Nikkah, the girl are also not allowed to speak even uponthis matter as it regard as “shameful act”.
In Islam, no one should make a woman feel shameful for stating her right and wants for a marriage at the time of signing. This is her right and her community must defend that right.
Most important is you know how they make you sign thewhole papers…….do you want the right to divorce or not? You can exactly add inanything there including divorce conditions, pocket money, house work, your ownwork details/necessities or any other tyep of commitment.
When Nikkah of Hazrat Fatima and Hazrat Ali (R.A) was the Holy Prophet (S.A.W) added the clause and many times people don’t tell you this.
These are the rights given to you by Allah Almighty, So Don’t Let Anyone Take These Rights Away From You.
Here are these right you should mention in your NikkahNama before signing it;
The first is Haq-Meharwhich is a gift that is given to the woman by her husband. Haq-Mehar issomething that would not be spared at all and must be written in the NikkahNama.
The amount ofHaq-Mehar is managed in two ways:
The groom can decide and bride has to accept it
The bride can decide and the groom has to accept it.
Secondly the husband has to pay you a pocket money for your personal expenditures,other than the monthly expenses he gives to you.
After having a child you start breastfeed to his/her, it’s another right of a women to as the husbandto pay for it, and he can’t disagree because its you’re right.
If you do a job,the money you get from job it’s yours own husband has no right to take it fromyou. He also can’t ask you to spend it on the house or anything else.
Consentto intimacy is your right he has to take your consentgranted otherwise it’s a marital rape and is recognized in the court of law.
Your husband can not get the part in you will or your property if you have any.
In Islam the guy has to pay the wedding expense from his own pocket. To whatever extent he iscapable of spending he has to spend.
There is no concept of Dowry (Dahej) not in Islam and in Law. If the groom family ask the dowry you can sue/ file a report against them on demanding the gifts and other items on the name of marital gifts.
Although secondmarriage is permissible in Islam under some conditions. You can also addthe clause that you husband would not re-marry without your permission.
So, please girls must write down your rights in the extrablack space given in the Nikkha Nama. These rights are permissible in Islam andyour legal right in order to prevent you from serious future harm by herhusband or in-laws, based on local customs and tradition and to show off thepeople.
The advice to you is to not be uncertain aboutmoney-related matters in marriage, though you have the right to specify certainlawful rights in the Nikkah Nama as protective methods against future abuse (ifany).
Due to the dominance of unawareness & repressivecultural practices in Pakistan, girls’ families do worry about how theirdaughters will be treated by the husband and in-laws after marriage.
So the girls some of the important rights must be mentioned in the wedding contract to avoid future hazards.